The Art of Love Making 101

Some fast facts to set the mood… Dim the lights, lock the door! This could get steamy!  

• The average breast size: 44% B Cup
• The average penis (erect): 12.9–15.0 cm
• Average duration of orgasm (male): 3-5 seconds.
• Average duration of orgasm (female): 5-8 seconds
• Percentage of people who orgasm every time they have sex:
• Men: 75%
• Women: 29%
• 42% of women usually have orgasms during sex with their partner.
• 29% always have an orgasm during sex.
• 25% sometimes or rarely have orgasms.
• 4% of women are not orgasmic with their partner.
• When asked, "How often do you fake orgasm?" in an online poll, 1500 women answered:
• I never fake it: 45%
• 1%-25% of the time: 34%
• 26%-50% of the time: 10% 

The conundrum comes into play when we are faced with the age-old question, "Are you good in the sack?”. We can break that down into three key areas: foreplay, felatio and the fantago itself. 

I liken foreplay to getting ready to go out; you don't step out of your door dressed in your tighty-whities or PJs - you polish, pucker and preen yourself to perfection. Right down to that last strand of hair and spritz of eau de parfum. So why should you not spend that amount of time on your partner before you both engage in the "partying" session.  There is a massive misconception here. I openly put my hand up and say women are quite bad at this. Most of us think it’s the man’s job to set the mood and pander to our carnal desires when it comes to prepping the ‘dance floor’ for the wild moves to come, but it is in fact a very equal measure of input here. Ladies… men have their desires too! Sometimes it may be having a headmistress tell them “bend over”, because they have been a very naughty boy (I know clichéd, but you have no idea how effective this is because its so wrong) or a dominatrix throw them around the room (one of my personal favourites) but either way I don’t think we take the initiative enough. This is down to a number of reasons: shyness, insecurity, the fear of looking like an absolute idiot dressed up like a school girl, crossing of a comfort line and experiences of a negative nature. To name a few. I say, to hell with all that! Too long has this sort of behavior been shunned and discouraged to the point that we never really talk about it. Why is it embarrassing? You get to play dress up, play a role that is far from yourself (a sense of fantasy) and be creative in the performance of whatever nature you deem worthy to get your partner in play ready for a night out on the town, and by ‘town’ I mean YOU! Take a leap of faith - no matter what you do, your man will love it!

Then we come to a very sensitive aspect in this process; “Do I give good head?” and I have to laugh here, as I don’t think I have met a man who says that he isn’t the best at this! Got to love their confidence, if not completely wrong in most cases.

Both men and women ask this question and in all honesty, it does depend on who you are with and what they like… BUT saying this, there are a few tips that stand true across all types of  ‘dance floors’.

Ease your way down there. You don’t arrive at the club as soon as it opens. You go for a few pre-drinks and get in the mood for the night ahead. Sure, sometimes you arrive late and the party is in full swing, then maybe, in these cases, you are welcome to boogey down straight away. But in most cases take it easy.

Start slow. They always play the hard house or dance music toward the middle/end of the night when you have consumed multiple drinks and are all fired up to bust out those back breaking moves. No one kicks the night off with some electric house to set the mood, unless you are at that sort of venue, but for this analogy, lets just say we are at a normal bar/club. So take it easy. ENJOY it and make sure your dance partner knows it too. Nothing better then doing the foxtrot with someone who is enjoying doing it with you. Make it fun… don’t do what you think is meant to be done. Try new things! Experiment! Explore! Ask questions! Now… this may be the biggest tip of all: Like all good dancers, you need good rhythm and consistency to your moves. Jiggling all over the place is just not acceptable and make sure you have a firm pressure (that goes both ways). Let me put it simply for you, women like a good brass polishing not a feather duster!

So we are finally here, it’s been a night of playing and exploring the club you’re at. Tasting a few different combination cocktails and letting your hair down. There isn’t much to be said about this part of the evening, as again, it comes down to personal preference but just be open and honest about what you want. Try new things! Push the limits! It’s not hard to become stale in a relationship so spice it up with a new position or some really emotive music. We use all our senses when we engage in intimacy so take that into account when getting close and personal with someone.

One more thing – Is bad sex a deal breaker when you start seeing someone?  Passion is a massive element in the beginning stages of a relationship, so do we put everything on that one aspect? Bad lover doesn’t exactly look great on anyone’s dance card! And when you’re in your late 20s, should we have to go through the motions of instructing and coaching! I am not a dance teacher! Such is the single life!

Thanks to http://www.clitical.com/orgasms/orgasm-facts.php for these facts.